Ted Haggard isn't gay; he's an abuse victim

Remember Ted Haggard, the evangelical leader with the gay sex scandal? No, he's not the guy whose dead body was found hog-tied, wearing two complete wet suits with a dildo lodged up his ass. I'm talking about Ted Haggard, the crystal meth enthusiast who paid another guy for sex every month for three years.

But he's not gay; Ted Haggard was abused as a child by a male friend of his father! Sure you were, Ted.

Or could it be that a lifetime submerged in a culture that demonizes and marginalizes homosexuality had the predictable effect of making homosexual acts seem just a little alluring? If everyone you know tells you homosexuality is a sin for dirty dirty sinners, doesn't it start to sound just maybe a tad sexy?

Sex columnist Dan Savage would probably apply what he wrote two years ago:

Like many fetishes, [this] is most likely a subconscious, erotic response to a sexually charged fear. While most of us learn to live with and occasionally conquer our fears without eroticizing them, a number of us respond to sexual fears or traumas by incorporating them into our erotic imaginations.